“If you are here, you have either experienced or are experiencing your babies loss, and I want to start by saying I am so sorry for your loss, for your pain and for the season you are currently facing. My prayer is that God will use us and our experience to bring you some answers, comfort, or to remind you that you know you are not alone.”

I read these words recently “Second-trimester loss is not the passing of some blood or surgical procedure. Instead, your uterus contracts, and you give birth, It’s an experience I wouldn’t wish on anyone, and my heart breaks every time I hear of a woman who has had to do the same. If that’s you, I’m so, so sorry.”
Oh, how I agree 100% with this and felt so much comfort reading it. It is way more than just a procedure; it is an emotional burden beyond just physical suffering.

This information is taken from trusted websites to ensure all information is given to you accurately and going by my own experience.

If you have a 2nd-trimester loss, you may be offered medical management. I had to have both medical and surgical management (Placenta removal).

However, your doctor should talk with you about what may be the best option for you. You should be given some time to think about the diagnosis and what you want to do. If you lose your baby after the first 12 weeks of pregnancy, but before 24 weeks, this is known as a late miscarriage.

How does medical management work?

I was given a medication called misoprostol, I was given four tablets as vaginal pessaries, and several hours later, I was given two oral tablets. This medication helps the neck of the womb (cervix) to open and lets the pregnancy come away.

Does it hurt?

Most women have pretty sharp period-like pain, and cramps and some find the process very painful, especially as the pregnancy is passing. The cause of this is because the womb is contracting and pushing. The uterus is tightly squeezing to push the baby out, just like it does in labour.

I experienced contractions like pains and extreme nausea, and a high temperature.

After medical management

You may bleed for up to 3 weeks, and you’ll be asked to do a pregnancy test after three weeks. If it’s positive, you should contact your hospital to arrange a follow-up appointment. If the treatment has not worked, you may be offered surgery to remove the remaining placenta or product of conception. (medical terms). This is something I had to go through. For nearly two months after my loss, every pregnancy test I took tested positive.

 

 

Prayer, songs and scripture helped us through this time. (and continue to help us) 

Dear God, thank you for being with me. In Your word, You have promised that it is You who goes before me. Therefore, even though I cannot always feel You near me, I know and trust that You are here.

Be with the surgeons, doctors, and midwives as they make decisions and proceed with my delivery/surgery. Watch over them and protect them. I submit them into Your hands. Please keep them well-rested and nourished to provide the best care that they can. I pray that my body accepts the treatment without any complications and that I will deliver our baby safely and that my body will heal and recover from it.

Please give me the wisdom to keep my body well-rested and well-nourished so that I have the physical strength to endure what’s ahead of me.

In Jesus name, I pray, amen.

Songs:

Promises: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D1PonQaEtK0

Have my hearthttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U3Skc4MQlqU 

Praise you in the stormhttps://www.youtube.com/watch? v=t5jhtjLt0pg&list=PLXhWe5uvEV3lyngDmZ08-Icoudzpuz00p&index=2

Surroundedhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mpd12nQ82vw

Scripture:

Psalm 34:18

The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.

Matthew 5:4

Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.

Isaiah 41:10

fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed (afraid), for I am your God; I will strengthen you, help you, and uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Psalm 46:1

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.

Psalm 18:28

For it is you who light my lamp; the Lord, my God, lightens my darkness.